A lot of and about overthinking :')

 

Today was such a good day and I hope you all had one too! Now, I don't know if this is just a me thing, but I notice as the day gets later into the night, I find myself trapped in my own head and everything that I stress about but doesn't express during the day, always hits me and I just feel so drained and find myself stressing about everything I could ever imagine. I know I am a big overthinker and feel that I am so different from everyone around me and it sucks. I feel no one understands or cares enough to understand me or even a percentage of what I think. I feel I am always getting dismissed and made to be the bad guy in situations where I truly didn't even do anything. I stress about little comments made days ago and I just can't help it. I wish I could explain it better. It's like for example its what, 10:14pm now and I showered and have been laying around since around 9 ish. Within this hour I've stressed about what I want to do with my life, how people view me, how I look, food, what school I am going to go to, if I even want to go to school, if people actually like me, if I'm too much to handle, how to be less to handle, how to change my personality, etc etc. These were just the ones off the top of my head, I know. I wish I didn't stress about everything at once and had better coping skills with stress, but right now this is where I am at. I know I should take things and digest them as they come but for some reason when Im alone I feel I need to come up with solutions and answers to everything, yet seem to never get a solid one. It is very frustrating. I have noticed myself being so so much happier recently and I know it's because I'm imagining that I just absolutely love life. I honestly suggest you do this too. When you imagine and just even say wow I love my life, it'll start becoming truer and truer. And I truly do love my life and I know that I am just stressing right now but even just writing this out helps me because honestly, you have to just take everything day by day. Friendships, money, followers, weight, looks, relationships, everything changes. We aren't guaranteed anything for forever, If you want something forever you have to make it last. It is hard though especially with people because that always has to be 50/50. Personally, I feel just like an annoyance and that I push myself too far into people's lives and babbling on and on and I feel that really makes people want to leave or stop trying, but honestly with everything I have personally gone through I know myself, and I do try to change minor things for the people I want in my life but I am not going to completely change myself just to be wanted, liked, or loved. It's more a take me as I am or maybe I don't want you. It does suck especially when it is people you genuinely do want in your life and the feeling of them not wanting you back or you not feeling as loved or wanted in the same way sucks big time, but it might not even be true. I like to force myself that it is really in my head and justify it by would they even stick around in my life if they really didn't like me? If they really were bothered by how I am, would they really stay with me? I guess that would be their problem if they felt these certain ways and continued to act as if they don't. So again, I have to stop thinking these things and take it day by day and just go with the flow and stick to it. I am so done acting as some go-with-the-flow spontaneous person and then getting so in my head as if I am doing everything wrong. I do love the person I am, and honestly I never even know my next move, but I hate the girl that stresses and ruins good things because of the thoughts in her head eating her alive. So yes, yet another off-topic all over place type of blog post, but this one did help me relieve some stress and I feel got a lot out. Here is a few things that help me from time to time, so I hope it can help you too :)


  1. Identify what is within your control: Recognize the things that you have control over versus those that you don't. Focusing on what you can control will help you feel more empowered and reduce stress.

    - We can't control how people feel or act towards us, we can only control if we want them to stay in our lives and if we are feeling appreciated, accepted, and loved by them

    - We can't sit around waiting for people to answer or make their own opinions on something we are doing, it is out of our control how someone feels about something, if it makes you happy, keep going for it

    - Really think about this one, if you can't control it, it isn't all your problem to be stressing about.



  2. Accept what is outside of your control: Acknowledge that some things are beyond your control and that worrying about them won't change the outcome. Accepting this can help you let go of unnecessary worry.

    - Pretty much same points as identifying what is in your control, but if you take a moment and realize that this is out of your control, do not engage in it and or waste your time on it

    -Do not let something eat you alive that truly isn't worth it.


  3. Practice mindfulness: Mindfulness is a practice that can help you stay present and focused on the present moment. This can help you avoid getting lost in worries about the past or future.

    -Worry about the now. Not the was or the could be

    -This one is hardest for me because I want things to last and always think well if i send this or do this it might end our friendship or whatever etc... we can't think like that.

    -If you want to do something do it. If you want to wear something wear it. You need to do you and have peace of mind with the person you find within yourself.


  4. Set aside time to think: Set aside a specific time each day to reflect on your thoughts and concerns. This will help you avoid constantly thinking about them throughout the day.

    -I love doing this. Even writing on this blog or in my journal, yes I have a journal, yes I am a little bit of a nerd, helps me so much because I feel I get to express my feelings without commentary from anyone else. No one can even get mad about it because it is I, ME, PERSONALLY, how I feel.

    -When thinking, you have to think about your worth and if you truly see it for what it, well, worth!

    -We all have to be a little selfish sometimes and make decisions for ourselves that will benefit us, we truly only live once and do you really want to look back on your life thinking how you were miserable while living through or for others? Personally, I wouldn't

    - Setting apart time daily to deal with the things you are overthinking truly does help because it results in you being able to think about one thing at a time and not getting hit all at once, and if it is multiple things dedicate different times to think about each, don't overload yourself to the point where it just because a messy brain.


    So those are some tips I figured I would share because I wish I would take my own advice more often, to be honest. Hopefully, someone finds them helpful or useful :) Remember were all trying our hardest and people do see you trying, it doesn't go unnoticed. Things get hard, but we get through them and always will :)



Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

September 20

Okay, there are so many things on my mind that I could speak about so this probably will be all over the place but that’s okay! that’s also how my brain kind of feels right now. One thing I’ve noticed is that I have been comparing myself to everyone and everything lately and it sucks. Like I think we all need to realize that everyone had different views on life and healthy lifestyles. also, everyone fights their own battles that no one will typically ever tend to know about. To some people, a girl who’s a “mess” is her having such a good day taking things one step at a time, and having a small win today. Also, those that feel the need to share every step and meal eaten today which seems like a little amount to some, yes it can make some feel like crap but that girl could be trying just for herself and feels the need to share. Not everything is a competition and in the grand scheme of things… there’s always going to be somebody out there that is “prettier”, “skinner”, more confident, fu...
Read more

1/28

  I think a lot into things, maybe a little too much into most things. I always have so many thoughts that I just have to let them out, I think that’s why this little blog will help, even if  no one reads it. I am just able to get it out….  One of the things i think about most is truly how crazy it is how people change. I truly believe people change, some can do a full 180. They become someone you never would expect them to have become. On a personal account, i used to be someone i didn’t like being. it sucks to admit but i was for a bad choice of words, a bitch. i didn’t care about really anyone but myself and some close to me, but should have cared more for them. I did a lot of things that i am not proud of, but don’t necessarily fully regret. Actually, i don’t really regret anything that i’ve done. Yes, poor poor decisions were made and some shouldn’t have been made at all, but i’m also a firm believer in everything happens for a reason. If some of the most big things ...
Read more

vulnerable right now

  Yet another night the thoughts are overtaking me and I need to write everything out. This past week has been pretty rough for me mentally, but the thing is I don't really know why. I love my life and the people in it but I feel I keep falling back into not loving me again. Coming from someone who hated herself to the point she didn't even want to be a thought to anyone anymore, learning to love and find yourself is so hard and comes with many obstacles. It comes with many mind games, but you truly see how strong you are after not letting them win. By them I mean the thoughts that you do not want to be in your head. Everybody has their own story and goes through things that no one else will ever know. Unfortunately, we can never truly walk in somebody else's shoes and see what is going on in their minds. Personally, I hate this because when I try to explain how I feel, I can never truly get the full affect across. I often wonder if other people find this as frustrating as ...
Read more